Tossing Salt Presents:
The Hot Seat Discussion
(NSFW) Dreams, Romance & Walking Away
December 9, 2018
I am the member of a Facebook group called “The Hot Seat Discussion” where the focus is on adult conversation and topics. It’s a wild page and no one holds back, with words of truth and full honesty about anything and everything under the sun. Check it out if you get the chance. This group and the moderators often post questions that are provocative and revealing in nature. Luckily, I have no shame and so I have the answers. Political correctness be damned. So let’s get busy and get to stepping with what we call around here, The Hot Seat Discussion. Let’s do this.
What is life is the dream and when we die, we wake up?
If that’s the case, this particular dream has been one of those weird ones that don’t really make any sense, where the scene jumps around from topic to topic, and where ninety-eight percent of the things going on just leave you scratching your head and going, “Damn!”. I know that life’s a show and we all play a part. Yes, I’m using Buffy songs to comment on this question. Once more with feeling and all that great stuff. I guess all I can say about this question is that’s something to think about and ponder. It’s a deep question, like the empty space in Joy Behar’s head, but far more worth thinking about. I’ll get back to you on this some time.
Have you ever been in an orgy?
A full, all out orgy where everyone is doing everyone else and it’s no holds barred? Nope, I have never done that particular scenario. My best has been three people, myself and two others. I’ve been a part of that a few times, both with a man and woman and then with two men and it was… interesting. I generally prefer one on one because when there’s more than one other person, it gets confusing. You focus on one person too much, the other gets jealous and upset. It can turn into a convulated mess rather easily. I’m not saying I won’t do it again because with the right guys, I probably will. And if you think you’re the right guys, send me a pic and let’s talk. We’ll see what happens. But back to the original question. A group of many, many people? That could be fun. Hmmmm…
Why are you so quick to walk away from relationships (or) friendships?
I’m actually just the opposite and tend to give people way too many chances before I totally break it off. Yes, I do push people away and tend to retreat into myself way too often, but I always try to hold on to a little something, be it the occasional text message, friendship on social media, etc, when at times, it would probably be best to cut the people off entirely. People that lie to me, try to use me for their own needs, are disrespectful, etc. I don’t need that in my life, but I always give them another chance because my heart does the decision making instead of my head and I like them, care for them, enjoy them, etc. I need to quit doing that and if I was to do, as this question suggests, walk away, I’d be happier. I’d definitely have more money in my pocket and wouldn’t cringe quite so badly when I hear my phone give me a notification. I’d be better off, but that wouldn’t be me. Instead, I just deal with it, keep my head down and the smile on my face and deal with it as it comes. It takes a lot to really make me truly walk away and thus far, only one person has truly crossed that line and he’s dead to me… period. Others come close, but I see the good along with the bad and give them more chances over and over. It’s who I am and what I do.
Do you feel a little emotionally damaged from past relationships, so it’s hard to love serious again?
I’m definitely a jaded bitch these days. If someone is great and tries to be nice and get close, I seal myself off and back away. I can do casual meetings and short encounters here and there, but if it looks real and serious like it might be a big deal (and good for me) my defenses go on full alert, I put up the barricades and second guess every single thing that the other person has ever said and done. Yes, I’m damaged goods. It sucks, but it is what it is. ‘Nuff said!
What ever happened to dating and courting? Is romance dead?
No one has patience anymore and all anyone wants in this entitled generation of folks is immediate self-gratification. Romance is dead. Old fashioned courting and dating and getting to know each other slowly and thoroughly is dead as well. It’s a new world and new generation and actually taking time to know someone is old fashioned and outdated. And it sucks. It really, truly does.
And there you go. Any thoughts, comments or questions, please feel free to comment and let me know. My thanks for reading. And until the next time, I guess I’m calling it a night. Take care and stay warm. I loves ya!